Sex is quite a debatable topic among qigong practitioners. Some people believe that sex need to be strictly limited in order to have better health, because energy/qi is consumed during sex. To them, preserving the body qi is the key. While some other people believe that practice during sex could boost body’s overall health, because congenital qi can be activated during sex. Congenital qi could help to supplement the body energy/qi and to strengthen the whole body.
In the long history of Taoist qigong practice, the debates between the two viewpoints have never ceased. Sex is never a taboo in qigong practice. Actually traditional Taoist qigong have two completely different practice approaches: to eliminate sex completely, or to practice through excessive sex.
Sex can be a pleasure or a disaster
Now let’s look at sex itself without any discrimination. You see, sex is neither good nor bad. It is just a natural thing that our body needs. Just like the food we eat, and the air we breathe. Sex is what our body needs to fulfill its destiny: to produce new body.
If you notice that I mention “new body” instead of “new life”, you are aware that life is not body. However life cannot exist without body, can it? And life is beyond this body and mind.
If you focus on the body wellness, yes sex is a tool, one of the most powerful tools. If you use the tool in the right way, it can help to boost up body energy and keep you young and energetic. If you don’t know how to use the tool appropriately, you could end up destroying your body and life.
Just like any other tool you have, car, house, knife, etc, you need to know how to use them. You also need to know how to maintain it properly. Can you imagine a car without proper maintenance? It could not help you to reach your destination, instead it would put you in dangerous situations on the way.
Sex and orgasm
When people talk about sex, they cannot avoid talking about orgasm…
So, how to achieve orgasm? Just by stimulating certain body parts, genitals included? Yes if you stimulate certain body parts, you can achieve ejaculation. It works for both male and female body. But ejaculation is not orgasm. Ejaculation can easily happen if you grasp some skills, because it only involves physical body.
In the western world, sexologists teach people those skills: where and how to stimulate body parts. You can learn from them how to ejaculate. However ejaculation alone won’t bring happiness and complete satisfaction. Only orgasm can. Unfortunately you could never learn orgasm from anyone. Orgasm can happen only when multiple dimensions are involved: physical, emotional, energy and life.
To be precise, if two of the four dimensions are involved during sex, ejaculation with pleasure could be achieved. If three of the four dimensions are involved, orgasm will happen without question. However very few people know that if he/she can deeply involve with life, that one dimension alone, he/she could reach ecstasy, the highest state of orgasm.
In another word, you can have sex with life to reach ultimate orgasm.